Rough flight to Socal yesterday. Got disrespected by a woman saving seats on Southwest and wasn’t able do anything about it. What do you do when someone disregards the rules and keeps you from a benefit you would otherwise have – in this case, an exit row seat?
The seat I aimed for was an exit row window with more legroom room than others. It’s my go-to seat, and I’m always happy when it’s open. I’m OK if it’s not – on SW, it’s (supposedly) first come, first served. There was a woman sitting in the exit row middle seat with her belongings piled in the aisle and window seats. The SW flight attendant was standing in the row behind her.
I started to move into the row and this conversation happened.
Me, pointing at the window: “I’ll take that seat, thanks.”
Her: “No, that’s for my husband.”
Me: “There are three seats. He can have the aisle.”
She replied. “No, he’s six foot four and he needs this seat.”
Me: “I’m sorry, it doesn’t work that way. Please move so that I can sit down.”
Her: “Fine.” And she moved into the window seat, jamming her stuff back into the middle and aisle seats.
Me: “Seriously?” And to the flight attendant, “You’re OK with this? This isn’t how SW is supposed to work.”
Flight attendant: “Now that she’s claimed that seat (the window), it’s hers.” He might have shrugged; I can’t remember.
I processed this for a few seconds, standing in the aisle. I realized that if I took the aisle seat, I would end up sitting next to this shitstain of a person when she switched seats with her husband. Or next to the husband, who would be a large person. So I gave up and went away to find a non-exit-row seat. It was a long 3.5 hour flight to Phoenix, a little less comfortable than it should have been.
I find this part of modern, “civil” society maddening. If you just don’t care how big an asshole you are, you can flout the rules and inconvenience others. With no consequence. You can’t use force to get people to do the right thing, and in this situation any escalation with this unreasonable, unlikable person could result in being thrown off the plane. It’s a no win, and the asshole woman used this to her advantage.
I used to think that most people were nice, reasonable people. Through encounters like this, and knowing that almost half the country will vote for Trump, I no longer believe that.
Later in the flight I imagined a conversation I wish had happened. Would have made me feel a bit better about it all.
The six-four husband shows up to sit next to his harpy wife and I say to him. “You know, we haven’t met, but I already know something about you.”
Husband: “Really? What’s that?”
Me: “You have poor taste in women.”